Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Dami Olonisakin is an award-winning sexpert. Through her blog, Simply Oloni , she shares sex and relationship advice with women from all over the world. Oloni also hosts Laid Bare , a sex-positive podcast, and is well on her way to becoming an author with her crowdfunded first book, The Big O. In the book, Oloni will decode sex and sexuality for millennials. Often called the "hook-up generation", she believes that the hyper-connectivity of our world has left young people disillusioned and often anxious about sex, consent and intimacy.
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The emotional overture I feel before boarding a roller coaster is about the same as I feel right before embarking on anal sex : excitement, followed by mild hesitation and nervousness. The thing about every single roller roaster ride I've been on so far is that I've loved them all. No matter how many butterflies are tap-dancing on the bottom of my stomach as the ride lurches up a steep hill, the thrill I feel at the end of the ride is always worth it. This isn't to say that everyone who likes roller coasters will also like anal sex. The takeaway from this metaphor is that it's very much fine to be nervous about it beforehand—even if you're totally sure and you should be that this is something you want to be doing.
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Hey, it's okay to ask. We should all be doing whatever it takes to get more pleasure for ourselves and our partner or partners during sex. No one has the time these days to waste, so we'll make it easy for you.
Taking control in bed means authentic expression in whatever form it may take. So, ask yourself: What empowers you? It comes as no shock that many people—particularly women—struggle to ask for what they want in bed. Power dynamics are seemingly always present regardless of sex and gender. Maybe this sounds obvious: Tell my partner what I want and ask what they want— what a new idea!